At the risk of being seen as insensitive to her plight I offer this. Would it not be prudent for a person with body jewelry to remove it before flying? You don't think it will set off the detector? I can't get through if I leave a quarter in my pocket. As a semi-frequent flyer I try to make it as easy as possible to pass through security, for my convenience as well as every one else in line behind me.
I agree the TSA can be unreasonable but why even take a chance? I wouldn't want there job.

I've already told you more than I know.