oh Bobber, could get in lots of trouble here. Danger ! Danger ! IMHO the better educated & the better the understanding of what's at stake, the more willing to meet in the middle. When I go to Mexico, I take a book. Sometimes I ask how much something is, and screw up & ask how old they are. The mistake is immediately obvious to all, but it's out of my mouth. Usually received with laughter.

when in doubt...do without