Someone can give the "appearance" of a certain character trait, without actually having a physical characteristic that suggests the same. So you've got me a bit confused klc, as to where you were trying to go with that. But no matter.
Scubaldy, I agree with some of what you've said and some of what you perceive. I recall many times that I've found myself trying to explain to locals that many of the tourists they see, have worked long and hard to afford the vacation they are on. I've tried to express that for the most part, they don't necessarily behave the same way at home as they may do while on vacation. I've tried to explain, that it can be particularly true for those people on vacation from more northerly (colder) states and countries. I'm sure the whole concept, is most confusing to those that work 12-18 hour days, 6 days a week, with no hope of a vacation. One of my friends down there, often works every day, 12+ hours a day for a month or two at a time before he gets a break. Oddly enough, he's one person that seems to understand. Mayhap that's because he does get to realize a vacation once in a blue moon.