Sun&sand, I hope your marriage continues to be all that you believe it is. I hope you never have to suffer any indignity, mistreatment or betrayal in any aspect of your life. In my experience, many very good people make very poor choices. The fact that others are so quick to condem, ridicule and belittle them says much more about those people than it does about the transgressors. I'm not saying there shouldn't be consequences, I'm just advocating for treating people with some decency instead of rushing off to judge them because they don't live up to your "moral" standards. Sort of that "let (s)he without sin cast the first stone" concept. And whatever your view of someone else's actions, it diminishes all of us to refer to another human being in terms such as "skuzball."

As for your snide comment about my job, I'd gladly trade it in for a world where everyone did the right thing.

I can never remember which is better . . . safe? . . . or sorry?